Marriage Secrets
“Our highly-trained staff create memorable teambuilding experiences through a variety of challenges involving poles, cables, platforms and ropes 12-40 feet above the ground.”
It sounded like fun to me and Julie agreed. This morning we will participate in a Couples Challenge Course. This afternoon we’re going to a resort near Phoenix. Temperatures are predicted to be 98-104 degrees so the swimming will be welcomed. We have a DVD for tonight, good books and plans for a fun weekend.
I read in 31 Secrets of Happily Married Couples that happily married couples have just as many problems as unhappily married couples. A difference between the two groups is that happily married couples have more good experiences. It’s simple accounting. Put five good experiences into the marriage account, take out one for a disagreement and four good experiences are left. The account isn’t overdrawn.
It’s so simple. Why didn’t I know this in my first marriage?
It sounded like fun to me and Julie agreed. This morning we will participate in a Couples Challenge Course. This afternoon we’re going to a resort near Phoenix. Temperatures are predicted to be 98-104 degrees so the swimming will be welcomed. We have a DVD for tonight, good books and plans for a fun weekend.
I read in 31 Secrets of Happily Married Couples that happily married couples have just as many problems as unhappily married couples. A difference between the two groups is that happily married couples have more good experiences. It’s simple accounting. Put five good experiences into the marriage account, take out one for a disagreement and four good experiences are left. The account isn’t overdrawn.
It’s so simple. Why didn’t I know this in my first marriage?
posted by Paul at 6:54 AM
8 Comments:
The math is so simple. Everybody should be educated about this.
I call it emotional capital. Sometimes confused with "What have you done for me lately?", but something like that.
I'm not sure I'm joking when I say all my previous relationships were diversions to entertain and educate me while I was waiting to meet the right person.
I was taught that the magic ratio is 7 to 1. Seven good experineces for every bad to keep a happy marriage.
Need a few more good ones? Go giver her a back rub.
It’s so simple. Why didn’t I know this in my first marriage?
It takkes 2 to Tango
Ever wonder how these huge banks are popping up everywhere? Gigantic overdraft charges from overdrawn accounts of course. Most people can't manage money or relationships. I worked in a bank for 12 years... the accounts that thrived were managed by people that put effort into each transaction... 2 people have to put forth effort in interaction for a relationship to work which can make the math a nightmare.
Maybe your first wife had you so pissed off all the time the idea never could have occured to you........
I'm grateful to read this - it seems so obviously true - and gives me hope that the secret to a good relationship is as much the individuals involved (as aggregates of personality traits, interests, and the like) as well as the effort they put into it...
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